Yahya bin Muaaz Rahmatullah-e-Alayh says,
“There isn’t any respect for a person that disobeys Allah Jalla Jala Laho
If a person desires respect then he should always obey Allah Jalla Jala Laho We search for respect in money, luxury homes, latest model vehicles, cell phones, etc. We ensure that these things are noticed by others, so that people are aware that we are using the latest phone. To attain this objective we will use it in front of others with style. This proves that we regard respect in these things but it is only in the obedience of Allah Ta'ala.
The Buzurgs have written that those that attach importance to these things are clear indications that they are internally empty. The more a person is filled internally is so simple externally. Our great Buzurgs were extremely simple in their external dress even though it was connected to Deen. The great Buzurgs weren’t even particular of straightening their Topis. This had indicated their internal condition.
Nowadays, people are particular of their topies, shoes, sandals, and desire to be noticed. Maulana Muhammad Gardee Saheb of White river had visited Hadrat Maulana Habibur Rahman Aazmi of Aazam Gar. He says, “I found him wearing a simple vest with many holes on them.” He says, “When I embraced him I was unable to leave him.” The insignificant worldly things didn’t matter to these Buzurgs. Hadrat Sheikh says that for six months he never changed his Kurta.
We are so concerned of the creams, cosmetics, brushing our hair. This is the way of the women but the men have also fallen into these things. We should remember respect is only in the obedience of Allah Ta'ala.